Why You Should Never Tell Your Best Friend Their Spouse is Cheating on Them
Let’s say I have a best friend named Carl. We’ve been friends a long time. We care very much about each other. There is nothing I wouldn’t do for Carl, and nothing he wouldn’t do for me.
One day I found out his wife was cheating on him. I went to a new place, Joe’s Pub, on a Friday night and saw Carl’s wife in a corner booth in the back, snuggling and smooching passionately with I guy who wasn’t Carl.
I didn’t say anything to Carl. The next Friday night, I went to the same pub and saw the two lovers again in the same corner booth. I still didn’t tell Carl.
The following Friday night, and there they are again! Somehow, I’ve got to let my best friend know he has a real problem. Remember, I would do anything for him.
But, if I tell him, “Hey Carl, Your wife is cheating on You!”, how will he react?
Probably something like, “You’re full of crap, Ken! She would never do that. You’re an a-hole!”
But I’ve SEEN her with the guy! I’m obligated as a friend to do something, but I don’t want to risk losing the friendship in the process.
Even if Carl learns the truth later and says, “Ken, I’m sorry. I should have listed to You,” there will still be a scar on our relationship.
So, what to do? What if I arrange for Carl to discover the truth on his own?
“Hey Carl, what are You doing Friday night?”
“Nothing, Ken, just watching TV as usual.”
“Listen, Carl, there’s a cool new place in town everybody’s talking about - Joe’s Pub. Why don’t we go there together, check it out, have some fun?”
So, we go to Joe’s Friday night, and I arrange it so Carl is sitting facing the corner booth in the back. At some point, he spots his wife smooching with her boyfriend. Carl says, “My God! That’s my wife back there in the corner!”
I turn my head around to look and say, “No, that’s got to be someone who just looks like her.”
“No! It’s her, it’s HER!” Carl shouts as he rises out of his chair.
I grab Carl and say, “No, man, this is not the time or the place. Let’s get out of here and talk about it somewhere else.”
Now Carl knows the truth and I can be there for him as his friend to help him through this.
What does all this have to do with Network Marketing?
Let’s say You have a friend who’s in what You know is a bad MLM company. You’ve researched and found out the owners are crooks who will probably grab the money and run to Cyprus to avoid extradition.
Or You know the products are crap and no one will buy them and the price they demand, or - even worse, there IS no real product or service - it’s just a Ponzi scheme.
Or their compensation plan is so bad, even though the company is raking in so much cash their headquarters are expanding to overtake an entire county, their distributors are starving.
Or whatever.
Should You tell Your friend at the risk of Your friendship? He’s bought into it hook, line and sinker. He’s MARRIED to the dumb thing!
He will probably think You’re just trying to recruit him into YOUR company by bad-mouthing his.
Better to point him to someone like Mentoring For Free, where he will be educated and learn how to spot red flags on his own.
When he becomes a critical thinker, then he will discover the truth on his own - and You’ll be the trusted friend who pointed him in the right direction.
Heck, he might even join You in YOUR company!
Your Friend and Servant,
Ken Klemm
+1-215-722-3274 anytime
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